Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Word Wednesday- Honesty

My word for the day is 'honesty'.

n. pl. hon·es·ties
1. The quality or condition of being honest; integrity.
2. Truthfulness; sincerity: in all honesty.
3. Archaic Chastity.
4. Botany A European plant (Lunaria annua) cultivated for its fragrant purplish flowers and round, flat, papery, silver-white seedpods. Also called money plant, satin flower, silver dollar.

Honesty is one of those tricky words. Sometimes it's good, sometimes it's bad.Sometimes it applies to how you relate to others, sometimes it's how you relate to yourself. Tricky.

 My first thoughts on honesty were when my mom would tell my brother and sister and me, "Jesus knows when you lie" if she thought we were being the least bit dishonest. Well, it worked. For a while. As a kid, I just knew I would be "struck down" if I lied, so I either chose to be honest or I worried myself sick (literally- and then I just knew Jesus had made me sick!) if I had told a fib. But as I got older and wanted to do things that I knew my parents wouldn't let me do, those fibs came in pretty handy. No guilt or worry at all (that teenager mindset!). That is, until I had kids of my own. Then I realized that those lies had hurt my parents and I felt terrible about it. So, as I got older, I vowed to be honest no matter what. And I was honest, to a fault. And hurt someone terribly. (I'm still getting over that one.) In that situation, I didn't have to be honest, I could have just been quiet.

Being honest with ourselves is also tricky. Instead of being honest with ourselves and about ourselves, we're tempted to embellish stories, stretch the truth, "fake it", etc., in an effort to make other people like and accept us. But if other people don't accept us the way we really are, then they probably aren't the people we need in our lives, anyway. Don't you think? Again, I think the answer is to just be quiet. If we're quiet with ourselves, we will know and accept ourselves for who we are. Pretty simple. Just be quiet.

This is a perfect list of words- they all add up to 'integrity'. And if you have that,  you'll know when to be honest and when to just be quiet.

A couple of quotes that inspired today's post:


"Nothing ruins the truth like stretching it" ~ Charles Simmons

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